WORKING WITH ROSE
Rose is used by herbalists to heal issues around love and loss of love, grief. The client, Jane had come to therapy in order to work around her difficulty in being in an intimate relationship; I felt that Rose could help with this.
A rose pot plant was set in-between our chairs inside the therapy room.
Th Let's sit down and do some gentle breathing to calm the mind.
(shared a breathing meditation technique)
Th Rose, we would like to connect to you today if that is ok. Jane ask Rose how you would like her to help you.
Jane Rose, I would like you to help me to feel ok in a close relationship.
(I then led Jane in a connection technique that uses imagination and vibratory voice work)
Th If you could share with me anything that is going through your mind.
Jane I feel I don't deserve to connect to this rose.
Th What's coming into my mind is the ability to be able to love yourself. I wonder whether your tears maybe tears of grief for yourself.
(time spent grieving and talking about situations in Jane's life to help her understanding around this)
A few sessions later. . .
Th (I then led Jane in the same connection technique that uses imagination and vibratory voice work)
Imagine your heart giving love to the rose.
Now imagine receiving love from the rose.
Jane I'm feeling emotional, but not sad like before - It is as if a weight has lifted, I fell lighter, loved, elated.
After this Jane went out and bought a rose pot plant to meditate with in her own home. This seemed to give her an extra support through the following therapy session around love and relationships.
This consists of literally making marks on a piece of paper with:
These marks may evolve into a picture or may stay as marks.
Using mark-making to express anger in a safe way opposed to bottling it up which can be damaging both physically and emotionally. Particularly for those who tend to act it out in ways which are harmful to themselves and others.
Expressing the anger on paper by scribbling with a biro pressing very hard.
Writing what you'd like to say to someone but felt you couldn't; which may contain swear words.
These exercises can be used as a starting point for anger work in therapy.
When a picture is made in therapy it may uncover a memory or awareness for the client which was previously unconscious. As a result of this 'uncovering' a transformation begins to take place in the mind of the client.
The client had asked to work around the painful grief she experienced daily over her mother's death that had happened 15 years earlier.
Therapist: As you think of the relationship you had with your mother does an image come into your mind?
Client: Just as you said that I imagined a tree.
Therapist: How about drawing that tree.
Client: Draws the following picture:
Therapist: I notice that there is a girl under the tree. Describe to me what you think it may be like if you were that girl sitting under the tree.
Client: I feel safe and protected and it feels comfortable leaning back against the tree.
Therapist: Is there any way that you have felt like that before with your mother?
Client: Yes, I felt supported and protected by her and really miss that.
Therapist: I'm wondering what it would be like to be that tree?
Client: I'm not sure if I could do that.
Therapist: How about trying out the Tai Chi pose, 'Standing like a tree' that we've practised in earlier sessions as a grounding technique?
Client: I'll have a go.
Here the client moves from drawing into bodywork.
This led into sessions where the client recognised parts of her mother in her own personality and began to feel the support she'd experienced from her mother in herself. This also illustrates the process of grieving where one finds an enduring connection with the deceased within one's new patterns of being in life.
This technique utilizes a tray of sand in which clients create scenes using miniature objects. This enables a non-verbal communication of the client's internal and external worlds.
As with drawing and painting modelling clay with one's hands can trigger memories that have been forgotten, as it is a direct link between the body and our minds.
Therapist: Would you like to choose objects from the selection to represent yourself and your family of origin, and place them in the sandtray.
The client created the tray shown left.
Therapist: What is it like for you looking at this tray?
Client: I seem to have put myself separately from the family. I didn't realise how separate I do feel from them. I also see that the object for my father is much larger than the rest of us and it's like he's looking down on us.
Therapist: Is that an experience that you're familiar with?
Client: Yes, he was and still is a very domineering influence in our family and I do feel very small next to him.
Therapist: Is there anything you'd like to say from your figure to your father figure?
Client: Why do you never listen to me and take me seriously? I wish you would support me rather than criticize me.
Therapist: I wonder what the father figure might say back?
Client: That will be a bit strange but I'll have a go.
I'm sorry if I criticize you to do well, I didn't mean to upset you.
Therapist: I'm wondering whether you'd like to change the tray in anyway? How you may like it to be?
The client chose a different character for her father that was smaller and placed all the family members together in a circle.
This followed on to sessions around the client and her relationships to others in particular to her father.
Puppets are useful in practising dialogues.
Helps to reduce anxiety, panic attacks and increases self-confidence.
These techniques are a combination of Yoga and Tai Chi practices which include working with posture, sitting and standing as well as focusing on the breathe.
Using postures / acting out a scenario of how we'd like to be within the safety of the therapy room.
This can help build confidence within someone who has a profound feeling of inadequacy. Help us practise certain scenarios in our life that we find difficult to deal with.
As with drawing and painting, modelling clay with one's hands can trigger memories that have been forgotten, as it is a direct link between the body and our minds.
Therapist: Close your eyes and feel the lump of clay. Squeeze it and smooth it. Let your hands form it into a shape. Now open your eyes and describe the clay form to me.
Client: It's hollow with thick walls
Therapist: In your imagination be this clay. What does it feel like if you were hollow with thick walls?
Client: I feel as if I am a hollow cylinder with nothing inside. My walls are thick to protect me from the outside.
Therapist: Can you relate personally to how you described your clay form?
Client: Yes, I do feel as if I have no centre sometimes. It can be difficult to get a sense of myself. I often go by what others say about me so I can know how I am. At the same time I protect myself from others by keeping a thick boundary up so I can't be hurt.
The client had described a feeling about himself that he'd had as long as he could remember. This session led onto therapy that involved helping the client to work around his boundaries within relationships with others and encouraging a growing sense of self.
At times expressing emotions through sound can be more satisfying than using words.